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When to Leave Your Wife

How to Decide

What you don't want to do is ask a bunch of family and friends what you should do. You need to do what is right for you, not them.

When I was thinking of leaving my wife I asked 3 of my closet friends about their experience. Two of my friends were divorced and the third had been in some long term relationships and had ended them.

I wanted to find out from them is if they regretted leaving. I do not ask if I should leave. I thought this would be too much pressure on them. What I wanted to know was if they regretted leaving. If they found that life was not very good after having left.

They all 3 said it was a very difficult to leave, but they did not regret it. Their lives were all great after leaving and they did not regret leaving at all. They were able to move on and have a good life.

That it what will happen to you after you leave. You will have a good life.

My life has never been better after I have left.

I do not regret leaving at all.

The common advice is to stay and try to work it out. But if you are reading this you probably know deep down that you want to leave and you do not think that staying will be good for you.

I want you to buy my book, How to Leave Your Wife of course. But the reason to buy it is to give yourself the peace of mind that your life matters to you. You deserve to be happy. You deserve a good life and if your wife is not good to you, you need to leave.

The answer to my bad marriage was to end it and leave my wife.

Perhaps the answer to your bad marriage is something else. Maybe you need to talk to your wife. Maybe you or both of you need counseling. But the first step is awareness. And the awareness I know about is that my marriage was not good for me and I had to leave. Now that I have left, I have never been happier.

I do not know if this will be the case for you. You can make your own happiness or your own misery. That is up to you.

I do know that everyone's happiness is important and that includes yours. If you are not happy, you need to find the cause and do something about it.

You are the only one responsible for your happiness. If you know deep down that you will not be happy remaining married, then leave.

I am extremely happy that my kids were able to learn how to be better people because I left.

Both of them learned that they do not have to continue to take being in a place that is not good for them.

My son confided to me on his 16th birthday that he could not stay with his mother anymore because he was afraid of what he might do to her. He was afraid he would get upset and retaliate against her awful behavior. I took him home with me that night and he has not lived with his mother since. He still sees his mother and tries to have a good relationship with her. She cared for him as well as she could when he was small. I hope he can remember that always.

My daughter ran away from her mother 6 months later to live with me. She could not stand to live with her mother anymore either.

Both kids are fine now. They had to live through a lot. They had to grow up fast.

But my part in all this is that only by my leaving would they have a place to go to and a chance at a good life that they are busy creating for themselves.

Leaving their mother may be the best thing that you ever do for your kids. You can be an oasis of sanity for your kids. Being with you can be a respite from living with an over controlling and irritating mother. You can provide a safe haven. You can be the rock. You are their dad after all.

Maybe you just need your freedom and your ex will be a great single mother.

But maybe, you will have to be the mother and the father. You cannot do that if you stay with a woman that is not good for you.

You will be no good for anyone. A woman who is not good for will chew you up and spit you out. You will just be a broken man like so many other hen-pecked men around the world. The yes dear types. The quiet, broken men who cannot stand up to their wives. The mild mannered weak men who do not show their children that everyone deserves a great life, even their father

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My daughters Inspirational Story Sometimes a young girl knows what to do to save herself.

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The Handsome Factor - This is a great resource for men, and especially young men to learn how to maximize your appearance.

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