Welcome to Personal Development for Men Issue #34

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Get Comfortable in Your Own Skin

What Does That Even Mean?

It always seemed stupid, but now I am starting to get it. It really is only a way to remind people to have self respect and be happy as they are and proud of who they are.

Why shouldn't you? Why shouldn't you be happy as you are?

I find that the more I focus on what I want, the happier I am. Whenever I find myself ill at ease, it is because I am worrying about the future or upset about the past.

When I am sitting at work with nothing to do, I fret because I think there is no work and I will get laid off. Or I am bored out of my mind.

When I am not doing things I want to do, I take a breath and think of all the fun things I have done and realize that I will do those types of things, or better, some time. I realize that I will not always be having the time of my life.

Even when I was a younger man, experiencing the wild, fun times I did not always do this.

I still went to work 5 days a week at a boring job. I still worked out enough to stay somewhat fit. I still had chores around the house and errands to run. I still watched stupid garbage on tv. I still did not do everything I wanted to do.

But, there was enough fun, enough excitement, enough life that I can sit and think of those times and remember what a good time I had.

Your comfort in your own skin is your self respect that you can start to create the life you really want to live.

Whatever it is, you can start doing that now.

I want to move toward a lifestyle of not needing to rely on a 40 hour a week job. That is why I do write articles and books and promote products. I do not want to work forever at a job. I love having time freedom to come and go as I please and that is what I want to do.

I want to be large, muscular and fit. So that is what I do. I lift weights with a lifting program that I can handle. I walk many times a month. I watch what I eat.

I want to date more girls. So I do things that I think will help me in that area.

But I am happy with how I am now. I am not going to wait until I lose 50 pounds to be happy, I am happy now. I am not going to wait until I can bench press a certain amount of weight to be happy. I am going to be happy now. I am not going to wait until I have gone a certain number of dates or been with a certain number of women to be happy, I am going to be happy now.

You just be happy now. That is the secret as so well described in The Secret of Deliberate Creation by Dr. Robert Anthony. This is as about a great of a program as I have ever purchased.

It does take some effort to change your mindset around to one of self respect. We are not taught this lesson very well. Most of us our taught to hate ourselves or that as individuals we are meaningless.

The more I think that way, the more my life spirals downward to a miserable existence.

The more I think highly of myself, the better my life becomes. What do you think will happen to you?

Will thinking that others are more important than you are make your life better?

Will thinking that if only so and so get elected, that will change things for the better?

Will thinking that if only you join some group, or some religion, or some party, or something of some kind, that will make your life better in some way.

No. All this type of thinking just harms you. If you think others are more important than you are, you will let those others walk all over you. You will obey them. You will put your life on the back burner and never experience any good things yourself.

If you think it matters who is elected, you are way wrong. I look at politics and government as they are ALL wrong. There is no right in it, only wrong. So it does not matter who is elected. They will find a way to make my life worse. My job is to have a good life in spite of them.

If you think that a particular group will help things, I just say look at the evidence. All these groups do is speed up the process of ruining lives.

Just concentrate on what you desire and your life and realize that you do not have a way to do that much about others.

The more you let the world be and concentrate on your world, the happier you will be.

Your life matters most to you. It is not up to you to make someone else happy. You make you happy. You do not have to stay in an unhappy marriage. I describe how and why I left in my book - How to Leave Your Wife, This book describes how I woke up to the fact that my life matters and I deserve to live a good life. Once I started to get that I started seeing evidence all around me that other men deserved a great life too. You do not have to stay in substandard living conditions. You can make changes.

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