Simple Ways to
Be More Alpha

You know you want to be more alpha. Every man does. The only ones who don't are either already a super alpha male already or just clueless as to what causes a great life for a man.

Climbing the ladder from a beta male to an alpha male is hard. Your entire existence will need to change. If you have spent years, or longer, as a beta male you will have to change much of how you are.

A mindset shift that you will need to develop is to spend most of your money on what you want. Instead of thinking you have to buy peoples affection or friendship an alpha male buys what you want. This will be a huge shift in the way you do things. If you are like most men, most of your money goes to others. You work and work, and most of the money is not yours to spend. You have to break that cycle. You have to switch from beta male spending all your money on others, thinking others are more important than you, to alpha male spending most of your money on what you want. Your happiness level will start to skyrocket the more you spend your money on your desires. The more you spend on you, the more you will be more alpha.

You have to get out of the mindset of blindly following the rules. To an alpha male, there are no rules. You just do what you want to do. You may choose to follow some rules to avoid trouble, but you do what you want. You will look at the rules as only a guide to avoid trouble, not something that you blindly follow.

But there is hope because other men have done it. If they can do it, you can do it. You need to truly model this alpha male behavior of buying what you want to improve your life in whatever way you decide.

You can learn the differences between alpha or beta and work on yourself to make the changes necessary.

I think it is critical that you start with some easy, simple ways to be more alpha so you do not get bogged down with the mental aspects and physical changes you have to make. So, here is a short list that you can start doing immediately to be more alpha:

1) Get a tight to your head haircut. It is difficult to find alpha males with long hair or even short hair that is styled. Think about how Arnold Schwarzenegger, Clint Eastwood and Stone Cold Steve Austin wear their hair. They do not have long flowing hair or let is get all bushy on the sides. They have their hair cut short. This is even more critical if you are balding. When your hair starts to thin, start getting it cut tight and be more alpha. I am not an old army guy either. I just see how ridiculous men look with long or bushy hair and how good they look when their hair is cut tight.

2) Grow your facial hair. You will not be mistaken for a girl if you have some facial hair. This is one of the easier fixes. You may have difficulty growing a really great beard, but you can just work with what you have. Having facial hair of some kind automatically makes you look more manly and be more alpha. You can always grow your sideburns a little if your job requires a clean shaved face. You can also just not shave as you get to the weekend to develop the scruffy look. Only men who are afraid of standing out want to always be clean shaven. You want to stand out. You do not want to blend in. Be more alpha and stand out. Alpha males do not blend into the crowd. They do not look like young boys with a clean shaved face. It is your face, you can have it how you want.

I am not kidding. You need to work on your hair and especially your beard to develop the alpha male face that women are attracted to.

3) Wear boots. Think of it this way. You love to see women with the cute, small, sexy feet in revealing shoes. This is more thrilling to men. High heels, small slippers, sexy sandals all look great on women. But small, lightweight, thin shoes just look foolish on men. It is a more womanly look. This is what you don't want. Buy boots from Timberland or a great store like that. They are expensive, no doubt, but how you look and how you feel is critical to looking more alpha. I am talking about the ankle high, all leather boots. Not work boots, but casual boots. These boots should work year around, except when you are wearing shorts, of course. You should be able to stand for long periods of time in these boots. You should be able to walk for long distances. They should be very comfortable and very durable. They should look good, but more importantly, look tough. You should be able to walk through the toughest terrain, cobblestone roads, woods and trails. You should also think that you can kick someone in a street fight. How will you do that in flip-flops or hush puppies? Be more alpha with your shoes.

4) Wear contacts. Men who wear glasses just do not look that tough. It is nearly impossible to find good looking glasses especially for larger men. Wear contact lenses most of the time. This is a very good way to automatically look better for anyone. I just cannot think of one movie I have ever watched wear the leading man wore glasses, it just does not happen. The reason is that it is nearly impossible to look good wearing glasses. If you really look at it the movies always have the men they want to look foolish, wear glasses. I know it is superficial, shallow and stupid to think this way, but it is the way it is. My life turned for the better the day I started wearing contact lenses back in high school. My life always seemed to spiral down the more I wore my glasses instead of contacts.

5) Speak with a deeper voice and speak more slowly. This is something you need to work on. So many times men will speak higher on the phone or when talking to someone new. You need to work on this the rest of your life. You want that deeper sounding voice. Talk slower.

6) Start lifting weights so you can start to develop some big muscles. I think it is better to get the big muscles than to worry about losing weight or being lean. Get the muscles first and worry about the leanness later. Big muscles need to be your priority. Think about how the football players look. Some of those guys are quite fat but they have huge muscles to go with the fat. If you are fat at all, start lifting and develop the muscles. There is nothing quite so womanizing as being fat without any muscle. You do not want to make the mistake of getting thin and then developing muscles. Muscles on men is the most important thing. It takes time to develop the muscles from lifting, but you will never get them without starting. The best method I have stumbled on has been developed by Pete Sisco and is called Static Contraction Training.

7) Start to get better control of your money. You do not want someone else, like your wife or girlfriend to be in control of your money. It is your money, you need to decide where it all goes. It is up to you to control every bit of it. If you are in a marriage, this may be extremely difficult. You want to have your finances be as separate as possible from your wife. You have to think about what you do when you split up. Be more alpha with the money that you earn. Use your money for what you what, not what others want.

8) Have more fun, be more relaxed and do more of what you want to do. You do not have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. The world has been here a long time and has been fine. It will be fine long after you are gone. Your main concern is to enjoy your life. Be more alpha and have fun now, enjoy your life now.

9) Lose the guilt. If you are actually guilty of some terrible crime, just confess. But if you have done nothing wrong, then you are not guilty.

10) Gain more free time for yourself by being more organized so that you have more time to do what you want to do.

11) Actually go to places where the women are. Alpha males go to the women. You need to get out more. You need to spend quite a bit of time where women are, both on-line and in the real world. You can only attract more women if there are women to attract. No women equals no attraction and a nonexistent love life.

12) Act with more boldness. The more you start to act confidently the more you will actually be confident. The more you act like your life, your needs and your desires are the most important thing in your life, the more likely that you will get the things you desire and the more your life will improve.

13) Don't wait to do these things. Start now, today. You can be a fat alpha male, there is no sense waiting to lose weight, finish school or get through anything. Waiting for anything, anyone or any reason does not help you. You start getting a better life as soon as you start doing what an alpha male does.

All these methods are ways to change your behavior and your mind. You do these things to develop an alpha male look to attract women easier to you. Women are drawn to men who do these thing to be more alpha. The more you do things and the more you change your ways the better all aspects of your life will be.

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