Healthy Relationships
It Takes Both of You

Healthy relationships take more than just the man bending over backwards to please his wife. It takes both of you.

Sometimes a bad relationship is the fault of the woman.

It is your life too. Your life will suck if you think it should revolve around your wife. If you and your wife are not compatible or you just cannot understand her.

When evaluating a woman and when you are thinking of a long term relationships one of the best questions to ask yourself is -

How is she going to be when -

1) the baby wakes up for the 4th time that night? If you want to have children make sure your woman absolutely loves children and especially loves to care for them.

2) she starts to lose her looks? If her whole existence is wrapped up in her looks, when her looks fade she will not be a pleasant person to grow old with.

3) you gain 30 pounds? Life takes a toll on men. You may have let yourself go trying to provide for your family.

4) her mother gets sick? Will she fall apart instead of figuring out what to do?

5) you get sick and have to spend a week in bed? My wife made my life miserable whenever I would get sick and need to spend a day in bed.

6) she is wrong? Woman can be wrong, just like you can. Will she admit it gracefully or make you miserable?

7) you really need her to help you? You want a woman to help you not hurt you.

8) She gains a lot of weight. Again, maybe she will fall apart and maybe you will lose your desire for her.

9) You lose your job. Will she pick up the slack?

10) Your house gets foreclosed.

11) She cannot get along with her adult siblings.

12) She wants you to do things you do not want to do.

These types of questions will really clarify what you need to think about before getting involved in a long term relationship.

Long term healthy relationships will only happen if the person you are with is good for you in good times and in bad times.

Life is filled with bad times and these times will be disasters if you are with the wrong woman.

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