You Can Change

It is your life.  You can change whatever situation you are or whatever circumstance that is unsatisfactory to you.

You are not here to put up with bad people or a bad environment or a bad situation.  You are here for whatever you decide you are here for.  If there is something "bad" in your life, you set about changing it.

What gives anyone the right to tell you how you have to live, how you have to be, what you should be doing or how you should be?

No one is given that kind of power over you.

They have taken it and you have let them. I have a podcast here -

You know this is true, deep in your gut.  Everyone knows this, but few will admit it.

If you drill down deep into your life you will see that in every case where you have lost power, where someone rolled over you, you let them.

It may have seemed like they had so much power over you that you had no power whatsoever.

But is that the truth? 

Maybe you could not totally avoid the problem, but maybe you could have minimized the damage.  Maybe you could have better managed the situation.  Maybe you could have at least moved on sooner.

I have been there and done all that.  I stayed with a verbally abusive wife for years past the point I should have left.  I tend to be slow on almost all the big, important things in my life.

But I do act eventually and love the new found power and freedom in my life after I make the change necessary.

So, if you agree with me, that you have let them tell you how your life, now what?

You can change whatever it is you are in.

If you are overweight, you can eat less.  If you lack muscles, you can weight train.  If your job sucks, you can get a different job.  If you are not good with women, you can get good.  If you are married to the wrong woman, you can leave her.

Can you get it in your mind that you have all the power in your life and that you need to control your mind and decide to change.

Just think how great your life can be if you start moving toward what you really want.  As you move toward what you want, you will naturally move away from what you do not want.  It is how the magic happens.

When I first left my wife, it looked like I was merely running away from a terrible person in my life.

But I was not really running from her.  I was running toward a better life, free from verbal abuse and toward freedom.

It is better to think of moving toward something great.  Not moving away from something bad.  In moving toward something good, you will in effect, be moving away from something bad.  The bad will drop away.

You can change, by making the change.  By deciding to spend enough time, any effort and enough concentration that it happens.

When I was in the process of deciding to leave my wife, I spent a lot of time thinking and reading about if my life made sense.  I concentrated on it.  I thought of how much better my life would be if I did not have to deal with this person on a daily basis.

I thought that I deserved to have a good life, free from verbal abuse and with a minimum of chaos and drama.

It is was what my life was about.  Thinking about how much I deserved to have a good life and concentrating on what it would take to have that.

At some point, I left.  I had no other choice.  I had to have the great life that I wanted so badly.  I was not going to be denied.  I deserved it.  My life mattered.

Your life matters.  You can change.

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